According to the Internal Family Systems philosophy, we all have parts in our minds that play different roles when we experience trauma, and we can communicate with them and heal them.
If you want to experience deep spiritual and sexual fulfilment, you must know your natural sexual essence—masculine, feminine, or balanced—and live true to it.
To heal negative feelings, let them come up, stay with them, and let them run their course.
Art is a reflection of the artist’s inner and outer world during the period of creation.
A collection of 450 bits of advice about relationships, career, happiness, travelling, and much more
Love is not a feeling but an art that must be mastered in theory and practice. Fundamentally, the ability to love requires a productive approach to many spheres of life.
Plants are a living example of how stability and flexibility can be combined, and they offer potential solutions to many of humanity's problems.
All of us have meaningful stories to share, but we lack the ability to recognize them and the skills to tell them. Storytelling can be learned, and it's relatively easy to do.
Growing up in South Africa during the apartheid for Trevor Noah was turbulent. Racism, poverty, bullying 一 all odds were against him. But thanks to a resilient character and a fearless mother, he was able to get through it all.
Writing is hard work. If you’re going to do it, write about things you care deeply about, use simple language, and never lose enthusiasm.
Explorers take risks and seek out challenges to prove that they are capable of overcoming them 一 rejoicing in the power of their own existence.
Siddhartha goes on a journey to find enlightenment, experiencing the full spectrum of human emotions.
Most likely, you’re not expressing your full potential. If you can cut through the self-limiting beliefs you have, you can change your destiny and achieve great things.
Freelancing can be a nightmare in which you work on the edge of burnout and get paid miserably (and late). However, if you follow a few best practices, you can build a great network of clients and make good money.
Potentially, the Digital Nomad movement could help to bridge the differences between emerging and established economies. However, to do that we must fight for global mobility and job participation for all 一 independent of nationality.
Your business is a creative endeavour and you should make it whatever you want. Keep your operations simple and focus on one thing only: your customers.
Even though Self-Actualization might appear selfish, paradoxically it's a fundamental step toward transcending the Self and serving others best.
Our species’ pace of change outstrips our ability to adapt. Before we move forward, me must understand the wisdom of our evolutionary history.
Human migration is not a detrimental social phenomenon, but a very fundamental part of life on our planet. Nomads and migrants can serve as ambassadors for a new ethic that is rooted in the local yet oriented toward the global.
The economic problem insists that we need to always work more in order to meet our infinite needs because there are limited resources available around us. However, a study of the hunter-gatherer's way of life reveals that economic scarcity is a concept that pervaded our minds and society only with the beginning of farming.
To measure your progress in life you should only ever measure it looking backward, against your starting point, not your ideal destination.
We are transitioning into the Information Age, where ever more sovereign individuals will be able to coordinate in cyberspace through distributed and decentralized networks, shielded from State violence.
In the past forty years, China’s economy has grown exponentially, yet its people are torn by the collision of two forces: aspiration and authoritarianism.
Every time an individual tries to free himself from his circumstances, he stands alone in facing a threatening world. Yet, he gains a chance to develop himself and become the master of his own fate.
Self-compassion is a way to relate to ourselves in moments of suffering. It provides the same benefits as high self-esteem without its drawbacks.
The age of Capitalism is coming to an end because of Capitalism's own success. A new economic paradigm, the Collaborative Commons, is rising in its wake that will transform our way of life.
To be free from suffering is to be free of the psychological need of the past for your identity and future for your fulfillment. Salvation only exists in the present moment.
Fifty-one billion is how many tons of greenhouse gases the world typically adds to the atmosphere every year. Zero is what we need to aim for.
Digital Minimalism is a philosophy of technology use that enables you to live a focused and intentional life avoiding the disruptive and addictive nature of mindless online consumption.
For the last 70,000 years, human experiences have been the most efficient data-processing algorithms in the universe. But they were not built to handle twenty-first-century data flows. We might try to upgrade the human data-processing system, but this may not be enough.
To succeed in the next decades, you will need to work very hard on getting to know your operating system better. To know what you are, and what you want from life.
Some people assume that today we are sophisticated beings, but in truth, we have never been more in the thrall of human nature and its destructive potential than now.
Self-improvement is about choosing better things to give a fuck about. When you give better fucks, you get better problems. And better problems equal a better life.
To navigate our overwhelming reality, we constantly adopt six cognitive shortcuts to make faster decisions. However, these shortcuts don't always serve our best interests.
Human beings evolved in intimate groups where almost everything was shared - including sex. Today infidelity has become one of the greatest sins. How do we reconcile our sexuality?
The best persuaders become more influential through pre-suasion—the process of arranging for recipients to be receptive to a message before they encounter it. Pre-suasion, in fact, increases the odds of agreement.
Our brain evolved to accomplish mainly one task: reduce uncertainty. That is why it constantly seeks patterns, compare things, and create expectations.
A commonly accepted theory is that humans are by nature selfish and aggressive. But the opposite is true. Or at least it helps to believe so.
When as children our developmental needs don’t get met, we develop trauma that later on negatively influences our adult relationships. To have better relationships, our goal is not to find the right partner but to heal our wounds.
Humans have limited time and brainpower. As a result, they use simple rules of thumb—heuristics—to help them make judgments. From a traditional economic perspective, in which people behave and think correctly all the time, we are actually misbehaving.
Our irrational behaviors are neither random nor senseless—they are systematic and predictable. We all make the same types of mistakes over and over, because of the basic wiring of our brains.
We have two ways of thinking: one is automatic and effortless, the other is deliberate end effortful. Ultimately, both are fundamental to our experience.
Attachment in relationships doesn’t equal weakness. On the contrary, in order to thrive and grow as human beings we need a secure base from which to derive strength and comfort. The better dependent we are, the most daring we become.
At the heart of the modern origin story is the idea of increasing complexity. We are programmed to generate and share more information in order to tap larger flows of energy and resources.
What we think we are - our Self identity - is 'just' a narrative that our brain weaves together from our experiences, with the purpose of organizing our behavior in a social environment.
To truly enact our calling means to take our work seriously. It means leaving our amateur mindset behind and raising the stakes. Turning pro demands high sacrifices, but it gifts us with the power of living out our calling.
Meditation is the exercise of holding specific conscious intentions. By intentionally directing our attention, we can reprogram our deepest misconceptions about the nature of reality, and about who and what we are.
Homo sapiens conquered the world thanks, above all, to its unique ability to tell and believe in fictional stories that enable flexible cooperation with countless numbers of strangers.
We are descendants of chimplike creatures who were forced to leave the rainforest six or seven million years ago. Once in the plain field of the African savannah, our ancestors survived by becoming highly interdependent (and throwing stones).
The difference between past and future exists only in our approximate, statistical perception of nature. If you could observe the microscopic state of things, then the difference between past and future vanishes.
Our behavior is driven by incredibly complex unconscious processes. Most likely we have no free will, but it's hard to see ourselves as the sum of our biology.
Love and desire are not fueled by the same things. Eroticism resides in unpredictability, spontaneity, and risk. One way to sustained desire in relationships is not taking our partners for granted.
As far as we know, complex lifeforms with specialized organs are hard to evolve. We are fortunate: we are alive; we are powerful; the welfare of our civilization and our species is in our hands.
In the 21st century, we need to find new ways to stay together in the long-term. Monogamy doesn’t work, nor do open relationships. The best way to reduce the possibility of infidelity is to have uncomfortable conversations around it.
On the scale of worlds—to say nothing of stars or galaxies—humans are inconsequential. The significance of our lives and our fragile planet is determined only by our own wisdom and courage. We are the custodians of life's meaning.
Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health. However, previous traumatic experiences with loved ones make it difficult to feel safe with an intimate partner. To heal past trauma we must regain agency over it.
By being the first digital object that is verifiably scarce, Bitcoin is the first example of digital cash. Most likely, in the future Bitcoin will become the new emerging reserve currency for online transactions.
The Ego is an extremely useful instrument that has enabled us to form complex societies. In fact, the Ego is ultimately a tool for controlling and planning your behavior and for understanding the behavior of others.
Sexual intelligence is emotional intelligence applied to sex. What most people actually want from sex is a combination of pleasure and closeness. However, to experience them we need to change our beliefs about how sex should or should not be approached.
In order to gain long-term wealth, you should acquire your unique set of skills and then use it to solve problems at scale by leveraging either labor, capital, or even better code and media.